The girls explain their reasons well, and when the fourth girl is asked to explain her reasons, the whole class, including the three girls laugh at her. the teacher, tells the entire class, that what the fourth girl has said is very important and deeply meaningful. At that very juncture, a thought came to my mind, so what do I want to become?
In life, events take place that is beyond us, yet in many ways, we go through similar phases of experiences. Life treats everybody equally irrespective of their differences. As you may notice, I am in the gazebo in the rear garden, from where I work.
Anyway, it seems to me, that the above story, which I have shared with you has been written by me. I will give you reasons why I feel that it is my work. I am sure that many of you will relate to what I am about to say - when I share my thoughts with you, many of you have may have felt, that whatever I said was meant for you only as you could relate to it.
It is Mother's Day today, and in the above story, the young girl expresses her wishes to become a mother. Does responsibility begin when a young girl becomes a mother? Or does it resume when she becomes pregnant? Or, does it resume when she decides that she wants to become a mother?
When a thought arises that we have to undertake work, it is self-explanatory, that we begin to focus our attention on the task there and then. When a young girl has the thought of becoming a mother, her duty must resume from that moment onwards. Your faculty of thinking and feeling should resonate with your desire to becoming a mother. For this, education is relevant, and first and foremost, a mother needs to be aware of the importance of bearing a child and therefore becoming a mother. Equally, important is the necessity of preparedness required to become a mother.
If a mother is smart and responsible then it is inevitable that the child will also be upright and virtuous. Likewise, the need to be independent for a girl expecting a child is pertinent. She will be required to be financially secure and with it the readiness and the strength also. She will need to forego the thought of expecting any support from her husband.
She will have to detach herself from the world and become a Sanyasi which means relinquishing or rather decreasing and then ultimately ending all ties of any kind with the world. Since she is on her way to becoming a mother, it means that she will be required to look after her welfare. Her only focus and attention are nine months of her pregnancy and nothing else!
This means she has to defend herself and be strong when facing any conflict. In short, she has to support herself in any difficult situation and stand up for herself during her pregnancy with grit. Support from her husband, her parents, and parents-in-law, and any relationships namely, friends and relatives need to be appreciated for their timely help! This is the level of commitment, dedication, discipline, and responsibility required for the mother-to-be.
Anything can happen in life, and God forbid if anything were to happen to her husband or even her parents, then her resolute determination and commitment to take care of her child has to be unflinching. The question is, will she be able to perform these tasks single-mindedly and single-handedly? The next step for her is to determine if she has the tenacity to bear the brunt of all hardships that she may have to confront.
With firm faith and resolution, she is determined not to depend on anybody during her pregnancy. This means that she will have to be very focused and mentally strong, such that her feelings and thoughts do not waver and break her resolve.
The most important factor to consider during pregnancy is decorating the room well and having pictures of saints, sages, and Gods within the four walls for upliftment and sanctity. It is equally beneficial for the pregnant woman to read the scriptures and to keep her thoughts positive and pleasant so that the child in the womb is benefitted from the positive vibes. Of course, she needs to take the utmost care with her dietary regimen. She will be required to eat and drink the right foods and beverages to maintain good health for both the child and herself. Motherhood is the most rewarding experience for women as a whole, and so it necessary to listen to devotional songs and to have the right congregation. Pregnancy and the feel of the child give the woman a sense of great joy and emotional fulfilment.
Plants need air, light, warmth, water, and nutrients to be healthy. If a plant does not have one of these requirements it could affect its growth or even die. Likewise, a pregnant woman will require a perfect environment.
I wish to share my tale of 'madness' with you all. When I became pregnant with God's grace, could you have even imagined or heard of a girl tying a cloth with a religious book inside it around her pregnant belly for 9 consecutive months? And the girl fervently prays to God that whatever You (God) may have breathed with your Divine breath into the soul of the unborn child, and whatever You have composed within the pages of this Holy book enters and pervades into the unborn child. I am that girl and that this is exactly what I had done for nine months!
I used to apply incense smoke over my body, while most people burn incense sticks as a sacrificial offering to various deities or to serve as an aid in prayer at God's altar or a place of worship.
I have always listened to the silent Divine voice of Mother nature (or Universe), and none else. Today I can say that by considering and embracing the entire Universe as Divine Mother I greet you all by saying, Happy Mother's Day!
It is easy to have children, however, becoming a mother is most challenging. When there is nothing but selfless love between a child and his/her mother what mother will not be contented. Can you even begin to measure Mother Tripta's love for her child? How about Mother Gujri's love for her child? Or Mother Yashoda's love for her child? And what about Mother Mariam's (Mary) love for her child? How could Hazrat Muhammad's Mother have showered her selfless love upon her beloved child? If this is not a maternal bond between a mother and her child, then what is?
The need for total independence for a pregnant woman is very important, lest she is forced by whatever circumstances to take a step that may be thwarted by society. The mother should be fully equipped mind body and spirit to be responsible for her stance in society. She must do away with unnecessary tension and anxiety, instead, she should affirm to build a sacred relationship and bond with the child in her tummy, much like a Gurukul with Shishya (students) and Guru (teacher) bond - a type of education system in ancient India.
The need and the importance of education which may have no meaning in one's entire life can inadvertently, become a boon for the mother during her 9 months of pregnancy! The fact is, that the child will not require any form of education for a lifetime, because she/he will perform only noble deeds (actions).
India was held as the land of righteousness by the ancient sages and saints. Where has that righteousness fled? I will not shy away from saying that the right way of living (Dharam) can be seen in America. To those girls who have daring qualities, willpower, and have a desire to become future mothers' with a clear understanding and faith that their child to be will be pious, righteous, and loyal to them I extend my greetings today!
The greatest contribution as far as relationships are concerned, that has been propounded, is by none other than Prophet Hazrat Muhammad. As we move along, each week I will present and discuss Baba Nanak dev Ji, Prophet Hazrat Muhammad, Jesus Christ, Bhagwan Krishna, Bhagwan Buddha, and Lao Tzu.
I will devote a live session each week to the above spiritual personalities. I will be presenting these personalities based on my personal experiences and understanding of how life introduces these charismatic Beings only if you can allow me to do so.
How can you build a structure when the foundation itself is faulty? Only if a young girl who is well prepared with the right education and know-how, can give birth to a perfect child. The child will lead a perfect life and will never react to any untoward circumstances in life. However, in our lives, we have only reacted to situations and we have failed to respond or act wisely. I would like you to think over this, please?
It is necessary to reeducate and revive our diminished and faulty understanding in our lives - a pregnant woman who eats and drinks without any self-discipline, for example, has no idea that the unborn child will imbibe and discern the mother's actions, conduct, and behaviour. The child will grow up to have the same behavioural propensities as his/her mother. If on the other hand, the mother prays over her baby during pregnancy it is a known fact that a grace-filled child will be born!
I wish to make a plea to those girls who are either pregnant or desire to become mothers that, please keep a watch over your thoughts, feelings, and circumstances surrounding you. The deeds you perform during the nine months of your pregnancy will bear sacred fruits in the years to follow rest assured!
The following simple suggestions will help you go a long way. Do not raise your voice, do not use bad words, and do not listen to bad things. With positive thoughts only and uttering God's name constantly, not allowing any negative input from your surroundings, shunning everything bad from entering your system, you can rest assured that your pregnancy will bear fruits unanticipated! Such a medicinal diet only can work wonders in your life.
With such preparedness, I wish all the young women a very Happy Mother's Day and I extend my heartfelt love to you all.
